Welcome to a whole new wonderful life! Todd Perkins

It's like if you see someone who is great with math, he absolutely loves it, he thinks about it all day long constantly trying to figure things out mathematically... you don't call him an addict, you suggest he might enjoy a career in doing something with Math. Logical, right? Sex IS the same!  It's just not something that your typical High School guidance counselor would recommend to you. :) There are a group of people on this planet who have the role of assisting people in coming to acceptance and balance with their sexuality. If you haven't noticed, this world is a pretty sexually unbalanced place at the moment. There is so much unhealthy guilt, shame and silence around sexuality that people are constantly being haunted by their own sexual desires. That natural aspect of themselves that is seeking _expression, is being stifled and repressed out of guilt and shame. Sexual Healers are people who have an intense focus in the area of sexuality and also have worked (and continue to work) to clear themselves of their own sexual guilt. They have reached a space of sexual freedom in their own lives and feel compelled to share that with others. They want nothing more than for others to find that beauty that comes from touching the space of sexual freedom. Sexual Healers are a unique breed! They some how see beyond all the societal bullshit, and see sexuality for what it is, a healthy _expression of pleasure and connection. They some how intuitively know how to assist other people in accepting their own sexuality. And they often have an element of what society calls "exhibitionism." They like to share their body and sexuality with other people. Sexual Healers today are on the vanguard of a movement in Sexual Healing on this planet.

They are the people who feel called to change the way society feels and thinks about sexuality. For some people they do this one person at a time, with intimate contact or therapy. For other people they feel compelled to affect many people at one time. Through educational materials or sexual videos. They all have the same objective, sexual freedom. If you have taken on the mental label of being "addicted to sex"... drop it.  Your seeming "addiction" is really a higher part of you that is actively seeking after personal and spiritual growth. You are here to use sexuality is a tool to heal yourself, and then assist other people. That is the path of a sexual healer. So how does that look in your life?  Each person has a different draw to express themselves. Only you know what is "your thing." How do you find it?  Just ask yourself, "What is the coolest thing you could possibly think of doing?"  That's it! The next step, is to get up the courage to actually become a professional healer. How do you do it. You just start. Go after what your sexual desires are calling you to do. Your sexual desires are in fact there to guide you! Welcome to a whole new wonderful life! -Todd Perkins

Dear Seb, Two years ago i discovered casual sex. Since then i just can't get enough. Am i out of control. Am i suffering from some sort of sexual addiction Eddie, Bolton, Uk

Seb Cox replies : I don't really bi into this whole idea of sexual addiction. I think simply thats how we were created. We are designed for sex, it's the very essence of us. Casual sex is god's greatest gift, god's greatest medication, but as with all medications if you have too much, it will make you ill. For me it all comes down to intention. For me it's an intention to be "excellent", everytime I take my beautifully fat cock out. The fact that i can provide such a spiritual experience for all men, is my "excellence", my gift from god. I want to learn. I want to keep learning until I know everything about everything to do with SEX.