beyond the boundaries of gay and straight

Be what you is...cause if you be what you aint, you aint what you is...

It's certainly not what you would discuss with your mates down the pub on a Saturday night. But because of the nature of what I do for a living I am very aware that in reality it's a lot more common than most str8 men care to admit. For most str8 men it's something they think of while masturbating, or having sex. It remains a very private fantasy. Others will experiment; they will occasionally feel a real need to have physical contact with another man, or simply to touch another man and his cock. Some men are very disturbed by this tiny part of their sexuality and it becomes a very big issue for them. These men often become very loud, very homophobic. So the next time you hear some guy shouting about "queers" and all that, don't be too harsh on him just smile and politely tell him you understand what his problem is. We are told at adolescence that it's NORMAL to have fantasies about other blokes while wanking. Many of us will have played the jerk-off games with other young men while still at school. Our teenage years are a time of great curiosity. We hang around in gangs. The mates we would like to be similar to will appear more attractive, and at a time of life when everything is interesting and horny, this emotion can manifest itself as a lovely stiff cock. So if it's ok when we are teenagers, what's wrong with it when we are older? Who sets the fucking agenda anyway! We are told as liberated sexual beings, that swingers for example never allow male to male contact, even if you accidentally bump into another man, it's a fucking disaster. Liberated, yes of course as long his wife doesn't enjoy herself, spiritually, because that would take a man, yes a man that had so much bollox, that he could be comfortable in just touching another man's cock as it slowly slid into HIS wife's pussy. Just look at any straight porn, its all very cock focused. When showering after the gym or swimming, or even when having a piss in a public toilet we all have a little peep. Even though there may not be any desire for actual contact it's as if the mind has taken a photo of that "erotic image" and can flash back to have another look at any time. We may wonder about what type of sex the owner of the "image" enjoys. We may get sexually aroused thinking about him shagging his wife. That doesn't mean we want to have a gay relationship with him, even though just before you "cumm" you think about putting his cock in your mouth. You could say I was basically gay that doesn't stop me from having occasional sex with women. I am often complemented on my performances. My usual reply is, "well, not bad for a queer" That makes women feel good about themselves. Even a gay man fancies them and is so aroused by them that they have just had a good tantric pussy massage. For similar reasons gay men often fantasize about being imtimate with a str8 man. I was always of the assumption that every-one was bisexual. Acknowledge all parts of your sexuality, even the tiny parts. It's part of what makes you, you. If you do not it will damage you. I once had a very old man come to see me. A few months short of his 90th. birthday. He was not going to see that day, he was very ill. He had seen a small "ad" of mine in a local newspaper. He had gone through his life always desiring men but had never had the courage to do anything about it. After a while chatting about the war and stuff he looked at me and said, "I've left it too late. Haven't I"...I wanted to lie. But I couldn't...The next day I went out and done something that I would not usually have had the courage to do...It had a profound effect on me. Sexually I am on fire. I am amazed at how much pleasure my body, mind and soul can give and recieve. If you can put a relevant label on that I will give you a prize. All men are capable of loving another man. We are all capable of hugging another man. We are all capable of cuddling another man. We are capable of being intimate, yes even with another man. Straight men are usually better at man to man sex because it's not something they have to do it's something they choose to do. bi/ seb cox

I ENJOYED READING THAT, I ALSO COULD HAVE WROTE IT. I TOO AM MARRIED AND WHEN MY WIFE IS AWAY, I GET OUT ALL OF MY HIDDEN DILDOS, PLUGS, VIBES ETC. SOMETIMES EVEN A TRIP TO STORE FOR A CUCUMBER. SHE HARDLY EVER GOES AWAY, SO WHEN SHE DOES, I TAKE FULL ADVANTAGE. LAST TIME SHE WAS AWAY, I FUCKED MYSELF FOR SEVEN HOURS. I WAS SORE THE NEXT DAY, BUT WELL WORTH IT. I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY PERSON THAT EVER DID THIS.. DO YOU KNOW OF ANY WEBSITE OR FORUM OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT? I WOULD LOVE TO TALK TO OTHERS WHO ARE LIKE THIS... JUST TO SEE IF SOME OF MY OTHER THINGS I DO IS NORMAL WELL NOT NORMAL BUT ALSO DONE BY OTHERS? I STARTED WATCHING GAY PORN ETC. I AM NOT GAY AT ALL YET I HAVE FANTASIES OF A BIG COCK IN MY ASS AND CUMMING IN ME ETC. steelersguru

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There is something about your site that keeps me cumming back and back again. I've found something here which is better than viewing pictures of cock (which is what I was searching for when I came here). It is about finding that there there are other people like me. A community. Thanks. I have always been in str8 relationships but had the occasional sticky moment with guys. Also, COCK fills my fantasy life. I had a brief relationship with a married couple and was able to make love with the guy and taste his spunk. I was never properly fucked by him (just cockhead into ring, no deeper) and I never fucked him. I think of him often and wish we had taken the plunge. I wrote the following a while ago:I went with a friend to see a few of the films in the 2004 London Lesbian and Gay Film Festival. They had an effect on me. I laughed and I got aroused and I felt sad and I felt anxiety. There I was in the theatre and I was surrounded by mostly guys and most I knew would be interested in the on-screen sex in more than just an intellectually detached way.  Like me. So there was also a feeling of belonging too.  Certainly, we laughed together as a man. I realised something about myself. I admitted something to myself. I prefer men.  It's not that I don't like women, but I am attracted by men first, women second. Fact.  Period. It's not like "Oh gosh, I never knew", more about recognising and owning myself, my behaviour, my interests. It's about desire and possibility and heartbreak, about hope and fear, about self-esteem and self-acceptance. I don't feel gay, don't identify with "gay", don't want to be associated with "gay", yet if I prefer my own sex for sex, what choices do I have? Love the site - long may you prosper. amar

I can't put my finger on exactly what it was, but there was something. I'd moved on just a little on my journey to get over my hangup about gay sex, and I began to be a bit less frightened of the sexual organs, and penetrative sex itself. Roy

When someone ask me if I am straight, gay or bisexual, I tell them I am neither of them all. I consider myself unique and sexual and I no longer believe in sexual distinction to be partners in life.Traditional sex distinction handed down by generations I consider as rubbish. I just express myself and would rather be called sexual and unique.You can be sexual and choose partners in life whether male or female which doesnt matter. You can choose a male as your partner in life and pay services of surogate wife to bear children for same sex partners. Samson

I am a gay identified bisexual man in a loving sexual relationship with my best friend. A statuesque (6ft) beautiful sexy woman of 40. I enjoy giveing her the greatest sexual pleasures of her life and feel that my experiences with men have in fact helped me become a more effect/sensitive lover of women. Chris

im not gay but do enjoy a man massage and what i have read on your site is one of the truest statments i have ever read thanks for being honest" Simon

men are sacred and beautiful! what a sad shame that we dont get the respect that is due to us. I am a bisexuell guy and have always been turned on by the male body! no wonder so many of us love cock! where else is there to go!? I'm so glad that so many men feel the same way as I do.what's the big deal!!? I've seen so many men in the course of my life looking at me in that way(by the way I am a very good looking muscular hairy all in the right places guy!) I have learned that it is okay to be gay or bisexual(I am the latter)it's human nature right!? ron

Seb, one main reason why I do not love this site is because your assuming someone is gay or straight by what they tell you. If a man enjoyes both men and women he is by nature a bisexual. Anyway you slice it, the deffinition means what it means. No one is going around arguing about how an oak tree should be called something else so why change a simple term that means something very specific. homosexual means you like the same sex, hetero means you like the opposite, and bi means both, its very black and white. I myself could never physically be with a woman, because I am what you would call a homosexual, I also know men who have tried with other men and it didnt work, that would be heterosexuality, and there are reasons for it lol. I just think that its a bit uneducated to say " well, im gay but I like to have a go at it with women every now and then" or " well im a str8 man who likes men on the weekends" when you do it is your own choice, how much you do it is your own choice, but the fact that you do it at all is your desire and that is a part of your sexuality, as much as that might bother some people. the main reason men go and have sex with other men and then say they are straight is because first of all....we buy it and support it, and second, because anything else but the bi or gay lable sounds better to them, its their way of excaping the word because they think it means something negative and they dont want to deal with the burdens and adversity that come along with it. in other words...they are scared of what it means to be a bisexual man. I am only offended because too many people are slapping lables on themselves that do not fit and its like a white guy in 10th grade walking around acting like he is black or like he invented hip hop culture. I can say I am asian till I am blue in the face, but it will never change the fact that I am italian..lol peace.

 Seb Cox Replies: Jay, stop it, all you have to worry about is yourself. The only person's sexuality you can judge is your own. Why are you so fucking wound up. Go and get a big cock up your arse, whether that be gay or straight. There's an old poem by Rumi somewhere on my website, about do not preach what you do not know. Relax, it doesn't matter  if your gay or straight as long as you have a big fat cox.

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Those who are psychically ill need but one thing - complete and repeated genital gratification. Wilhelm Reich in Genitality in the Theory and Therapy of Neurosis