Cockrings...

You probably won't believe me but 81% of men don't use a cockring when having sex...

Hi Seb, I'm sure like a lot of guys I use different cockrings for various reasons. But it is important to get the fit right. Too tight and I find it stops me getting a good erection and good ejaculation. When I'm out, naked, lying in the sun or for all day wear - when I want to feel that tightness around my balls, metal is best. Slightly more comfortable - or if you're going through a security screen - rubber works well. When I fancy a quick wank and am already stiff, so can't get on anything solid, I snap on a leather strap. Following on from that and especially if I'm having a long edging session I like to use a leather or cord thong to separate my balls - it is also easy to loosen or tighten depending on your mood. This is also my preference when I've been using my pump, my balls are hanging low and need a bit of restraining. This last also produces the greatest amount of cum and best ejaculation. Lube is important too, and when using the pump I liberally smear my balls and cock with Tiger Balm. The menthol/camphor in it give a great cooling/burning sensation. Otherwise Elemis instant refreshing gel has similar ingredients and gives similar results, but is more water soluble and not so messy if I'm just having a wank. Also gives great results on your nipples. Hope this helps you, and thanks for your pages which I've found inspiring and have often started me off on a long wank session. Keep strokin' strokerbo2001

Seb, We wear a cockring cause we need to know we have a cock. So we wear a ring of any type to over come what our people tell us ...dont touch that leave it alone its dirty but we enjoy & do more. The ring I started with is called a Blakoe & still made Black plastic with magnets in it to help with erections, Now I wear every day a Surgical Steel 40mm all day & night it just feels good & makes a better look in our pants. I even have the one called Tear Drop which fits' over the cock & balls with the tail which is soposed to push on the prostate as we move makeing the prostate keep a wake thats a big one & heavy the biger the fater the ring the more fun it is Many men like the look & feel ,,,,But then I had a Prince Albert done ,,the day it was done NOV 2003. I just pulled my pants & went shopping not a drop of blood but very sore for days then it had to be biger . I just worked with knitting needles which were mums I bet she knows too, Till my peircing hole is now 10mm. I wear my Prince Albert a Lot but now I take it out at night there is no way the hole will close its too big & too old to heal & close so a little oil & it slips in easy ever morning & stays there till about 11 or 12 at night ITS a handy thing to hang car keys on as you walk on a nude beach,,Ive done that you do get noticed as do the fur throw to lay on , I hear some gay men like Prince Alberts others say take that out Seb I will be 70 this year so I dont bother to pick up because of the things you catch as well as sex my best to all mayo. BDM

Dear Seb__I’ve been a big admirer of your work, so I wanted to contribute a few thoughts on cockrings, for your article:

• On one level, you wear a cockring to maintain your erection by regulating blood flow. But when I put on a cock ring, I feel like am both physically and spiritually amplifying my “cock-mind”— intensifying the pleasure and pride of having a cock. It’s almost like I’m putting a ring on my cock to really feel married to it.

• I like silicon more, nowadays, because it feels friendlier. In general, I have been moving away from harder, penetrative scenes, toward softer, more “cooperative” ones. Cumming soft, after intense play (sometimes including prostate massage), is my new favorite thing— and I find silicon rings work better for those circumstances. For me, metal cock rings have always been more for public play— bars, sex clubs, and such.

• Size is crucial for the same reason a tailored suit is: every cock, like every body, is unique. The right size promotes optimum awareness without being overly intrusive or restrictive.

• Applying the cock ring correctly means focusing your and your partner’s attention effectively onto the “theater of cock”-- which may be small in size, compared with the entire human body, but expansive in scale. In other words, donning a cock ring puts everyone on alert that our cocks are now the biggest and most important things in the room.

• For a long time now I have been shaving my cock and trimming my pubic area, for just this reason: to focus on the theater of cock. Of course, cock rings— especially the silicon kind— are easier to use in a trimmed and shaved area.

• It’s always nice then you meet someone with an entire collection of cockrings. Sharing them become a lovely extension of sexual hospitality. A sexual host of true generosity might even have several on hand to give as souvenirs— the way Martha Stewart-type hostesses stock guest bathrooms with new toothbrushes that guests can take away. I hope some of this might be helpful. I am wishing you the best for your article and, as always, your amazing work. Best, __Steve

Seb: Actually, I am new to cockrings -- I bought my first about 18 months ago. I had viewed pictures of guys wearing them and became curious and decided to investigate. The real reason men adorn them selves with cock rings is their fondness for their cocks and their wish to enhance their appearance (for themselves and for others). They are "sexy." They are erotic to put on. If they are tight enough they will help maintain an erection (but after an orgasm you will still detumesce, regardless). Certainly they will make one as hard as he can get, and increase girth slightly, if it fits properly. Otherwise I believe one wears a cock ring mostly to please themselves, and because there is a pleasing sensation when one encircles your cock and balls. Even when clothed, knowing it is there makes you feel sexy.Cock rings come in many, many varieties, materials and augmented to do different things. They come in leather, latex, rubber, silicon, metal, and fabric. They can be pain or highly stylized or decorated. There are cock cages -- a series of rings that encircle the length of the cock. There are leather cock rights with snaps (one to five) for multiple fit and to adjust tightness. Others have Velcro closures. Some are studded (some smooth as buttons, others like spikes). Most of these circle the cock and balls, These tend to push the balls forward for show and tell. Some have multiple or combination rings -- one circling the cock and balls and the other circling the base of the cock. Some have "ball splitter or separator" straps. There are harnesses that come with a series of metal or leather rights that act as a cage for the cock and balls. Others come with metal knobs or rings to apply pressure at various points along the shaft or to the groove just behind the head. There are even harnesses that combine metal cock rings and rings to circle and others to open your anus. Latex and rubber cockrings come in sizes and one needs to be careful when wearing these. One may feel snug and comfortable when you first put it on, but can really be too tight and can stop circulation all together. I would not recommend these. If worn they should be worn only for short intervals. It is similar to putting a rubber band (gum band) around your cock or around your cock and balls, or tying a string or cord around your cock or cock and balls. You don't want to leave them there very long. here are fabric and latex rings that are like lassos or nooses. One simply slips the ring over the cock (or cock and balls) and pulls the two ends to tight the "noose." The tension is easily adjusted. Some leather, latex, and rubber rings come with small bullet-type vibrators attached. (sometimes two -- one to be fitted on top and the other on under side when the ring is worn) The vibrator on the underside can stimulate the perineum. Bis and straights can use the vibrator on the top to stimulate the clitoris of a woman. Metal cock rings are available to circle the cock and balls. Others have a combination of rings (one to circle the cock and balls, and another to circle the base of the shaft and perhaps others to just circle the balls or to separate them. There are also metal rings to place just behind the head of the cock. Sizing is very important when wearing a metal cockring as they are NOT adjustable. You don't want one to fall off when you are not hard or become too tight when you are. I took two kinds measurements -- a series when hard and another series when soft. I did each series three times (on different days) and took the average of the three days of measurements. Metal cock rings should not be worn for long periods. They can become chafe and be uncomfortable. Leather cock rings are easy to apply. They simply snap in place. Buy a soft leather. They are comfortable and, adjusted properly, can be worn continuously. To put on a metal cock ring, one must not be hard. First insert one ball through the ring and then the second. Have them both through the ring before bending the flaccid penis and inserting it into the ring. Pull the ring up firmly to the body and make sure the ball hang comfortably through the ring. You will probably become hard immediately. It can male it easier if you sprinkle talcum power on your balls and cock before putting on the ring. Jiorj

There are many reasons why men wear cockrings. Many find that using a cockring assists in maintaining a good full on erection during sexual activity. Others will wear them for cosmetic reasons, just like they wear any other piece of jewellery, as they give a great visual effect by enhancing the look of the length of the cock. I personally wear one because it makes me feel sexy, and because it pulls my balls away from the warmth of my body allowing me a more intensified sensation during orgasm. Wearing a cockring puts pressure on the tube through which semen travels, and therefore also helps to delays ejaculation. Cockrings come in many different styles and sizes. It is very important that you find one that is the right size for you. To work out what is the right size for you. Cup your balls in your hand pulling them gently away from your body. Use your biggest finger and thumb to go behind your balls, encircles your cock and balls where the cockring would go. Maintain this for at least a few minutes. Let your cock go flaccid for a while and then get another strong erection. Then use a piece of string where you were using your finger and thumb to measure the circumference. It is really important that your cock is fully erect. Then divide the result by 3.14 to get the diameter. And that's the best size of cokring to get. Cockrings are usually measured in millimeters. Cockrings can be made of leather, latex, rubber, silicon, metal, or fabric cockrings. If you are new user use one that's easy to removed like a leather strap one or a simple rubber ring. Always put the cockring on before you get an erection. Make sure your balls are relaxed by pulling them gently away from your body. Gently pull one of your balls through, then the other. Push your cock behind the ring and then pull that through. You may like to use some lubricant and warm the ring with your hands before you put it on. Initially wear a cockring for 20 to 30 minutes at the most and remove it if it starts to feels uncomfortable. If your cock starts to become a darker colour, remove the ring and let some fresh blood into your cock before putting it back on. Discontinue use if there is any numbness or tingling (pins and needles) - this can indicate circulation problems.You should not use a cockring if you bleed easily, have a blood clotting disorder, or have diabetes or any peripheral vascular or nerve disease. Do not use if on anticoagulating medication or aspirin.

Hey Seb, Have just checked my junk-box and your email was sent to there by mistake (charming huh?) I have worn cockrings on a few occasions, but don't really know a lot about them apart from: 1) They restrict the blood flow to your dick so when it's hard, its easier to keep it that way. The blood is essentially "trapped in", not dissimilar to the "gates of hell" device. Also it increases the size slightly. (I presume due to blood pressure). 2) It's really important that the cock ring isnt too small, or when you cum, your load in essence "backs up" and goes the wrong way up your pipework which (don't quote me on this) in some cases can cause considerable discomfort/damage. I'd expect so anyway. 3) They make you feel as RANDY AS HELL, the end of your knob is SO sensitive to everything, it can help you feel fantastic both during the build-up and actually blowing your load. Not something I could use all the time; but sometimes, when you get the urge... nothing can beat wearing one.Hope this wasn't too late, I would have replied sooner but my spam filter is playing the ignorant sod game. Cheers dude, Oli

 1. To assist in maintaining a good full on erection for the duration of the play. 2. It helps too give a great visual effect by enhancing the look of the length of the cock. 3. It adds a certain 'horny' feeling in the sexual act, similar to a piercing or the use of poppers - partners are turned on by the look and feel of a cockring I prefer the leather one with studs so that they are adjustable and usually put mine on before the action starts. When I use a cock ring publicly at the disco or one of the sauna joints I use a metal one it gives me a feeling of power and shows my cock off I normally put it over my cock and then ease my balls through before I become erect - usually this activity causes an erection quite easily so have to perform the act quite quickly When I am feeling very raunchy and want to show off I have a leather stud cock ring with a ball sling this is quite restricting as it is very tight and restricts the blood flow to my cock while also causing my balls to become engauged - making my equipment hard and sight - ithen ususally use some oil to enhance the look and have guys drooling over it xxx:-) Tim

yo seb, F.Y.I re big fat cockrings took some time to research and question.... i'm sure youre braced and antiscipating my response: as to the cock rings specific use,as far asi know tis to prolong the hard on for our not so well versed fast shooters and insatiable nimphs, but also has the side effect of giving one an enviable money shot, putting your average man and well some porn stars to shame.... as to asthetics who likes a veined and throbbing cock forcing its self down your throat? but ofcourse....why the size matters is beyond me, seriously there must be a sect out there into cock strangulation? or why even concider a comfortable fit, the application there of.....mmmmm lets see, that in itself is a rubic's cube. hope this gives you just alittle bit more on this very complex and debateble subject....Iain

Hi i have a metal ring after trying rubber ones which either break or stretch! no good prefer metal will sent u a vid of me wanking in it ok its a very short clip but i cum loads and it may be of interest let me know if u want me to sent ok buddy?  Randy_USA